Day 38 – #50DaysMotivation

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It can be easy for us to get caught up in regret. Maybe you feel you should have been working on your goal, years earlier. Maybe you constantly go over in your head how much time you have wasted. None of this is helpful when you are working in the here and now. If you spend all your time reliving the past – how can you succeed in the future?

Guilt can weigh us down. Maybe selfish actions we carried out in the past or mean things we said in the heat of the moment – live on in our mind and play on a loop whenever we have pause for thought.

If regrets from the past keep replaying in your mind and are stopping you from achieving your goal it is time to work on the mantra “Let go of guilt”.

Let go of guilt

By using this mantra we are telling the universe that we accept that we cannot change the past. And that we are going to concentrate on things that are going to empower us instead of thoughts that drain us.

Letting go of past guilt will fill you with a lightness and freedom, that it will now be impossible not to achieve your goals.

Day 37 – #50DaysMotivation

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Yesterdays mantra was “I am Confident”. With confidence though has to come a certain level of modesty. No one wants to be around someone who constantly is boasting and has developed a major ego. We’ve all been around a person like that and usually can’t wait to get out of their company! So after you have worked on the confidence mantra, it’s time to say to yourself:

“I am Grounded”

I am grounded

When we begin to feel successes on our way towards our goal, it can be easy to get caught up in them and become complacent. By repeating to yourself that you are grounded, you are signalling to your brain that no matter how successful you are becoming you can see it is coming from your hard work and commitment.

By staying grounded you are not getting too caught up with the mental chatter in your mind. Instead you can see the goal and the work that needs to be done to get to it.

Being grounded also means that you are focused on the now – and that’s where all living takes place! It means that you are not taken up too much with questions like “what if” and “how dare they do that to me”, because these type of questions cause anxiety which is the deterrent to progress. So work on this mantra when you experience feelings of anxiety.

Day 36 – #50DaysMotivation

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Self confidence – or lack of – is something everyone deals with. Some people may be able to portray themselves as oozing with it, but I guarantee they have to work on it. In order to achieve a goal you need to have a certain level of self-confidence. Why? Because you are the one that needs to work to make the goal happen and if you don’t believe in yourself – that goal isn’t going to happen.

If you are someone who needs to work on your self confidence (and who doesn’t??) I want you to look into the mirror today and say “I am confident” over and over for one minute. You will probably feel silly the first few times you do it, but know that you are working on your unconscious thoughts and slowly beginning to weaken the thoughts that say that you are shy or timid.

I am confident

You need to weaken this thought pattens because they are what has you thinking the way you do now. You are not confident because your mind told you so. Now you are fighting back with a brand new thought system that will take time to develop but you will get there if you persist. It can feel uncomfortable when you begin but it will slowly start to seep into your unconscious and begin to get easier.

Stick with and you will see results! Slowly you will see that in small situations you bring an air of confidence that you didn’t think you had before.

Day 34 – #50DaysMotivation

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I’ve talked about the importance of getting up early and working on your goals. Today I want to talk about one of the best things you can incorporate into your morning routine – meditation and mindfulness.

I know when most people wake up, the natural reaction is to just hit snooze and turn over. I’m here to implore you to use that time to meditate. Even to begin with you don’t have to get out of bed, just grab your phone and a pair of headphone and pop them in while you’re still half asleep and press play on a guided meditation app like Headspace or Calm. Taking those 10 minutes in the morning, could completely change how you are going to tackle the day.

Meditate and unleash magic

Meditation has many benefits – it helps you deal with stress, increases creativity, you help develop your intuition and decreases tension in your body.

For the next week I am going to give you a set of mantras that I want you to use in conjunction with daily meditation. Mantras are a great way for improving your confidence in yourself as well as helping develop a belief in what you are capable of.

So come back tomorrow to follow our mantra series!

Day 33 – #50DaysMotivation

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As you work towards your goal, hopefully you should be seeing some small successes. As we’ve spoken about before it is important to break down your goals into smaller pieces so that you regularly have wins that help you carry your motivation through to the end of the goal.

The people around you may have started to notice these successes. Most will likely be happy for you, maybe even proud as you strive to reach your goal. However there will be people who will not be happy for you. They maybe jealous of how you are making your dreams a reality. They might be envious that you suddenly have this purpose in your life and they are squandering their time. They maybe be anxious that you are becoming a new successful person and feel threatened by this. Whatever it is, there will be haters.

I often think that “hurt people, hurt people”. Think about it for a moment. Those people are obviously hurting on the inside if they see your success though mean-spirited eyes. Today I want to help you deal with the haters.

Remember no one can make you feel inferior without your consent

If someone says something mean to you – maybe it’s an anonymous troll on the internet or it can be a close loved one – I want you to just ignore it. I know that sounds easier than it actually is, but there is little point in putting your energy into something negative. No good will come of it for you. If you engage in their bitterness, suddenly you are speaking their language which is full of negativity and hate. Why bring that into your life? You are focusing on being a better person – becoming consumed by the hate they spew does not help your cause one bit.

If it’s an internet troll just block them ASAP. Don’t engage!!! That’s what they want – that’s what they crave! They wouldn’t spend their time trolling people if they were continually ignored. They would just give up. So ignore them!

If it’s a close loved one – that is more difficult. But you can still deal with it, without it impacting on your mental state. When they say something negative to you, just smile (as much as it kills you inside!) and say “I appreciate that’s your opinion, but I’m happy with how I’m living my life”. And leave the situation. Whether it’s walking away or putting down the phone – you need to get out of there. I know this will be difficult but if you engage in an argument with them – nothing good comes from it.

So today’s task is to identify “trolls” in your life and start preparing yourself for how you will interact with them when the trolling starts.

Day 32 – #50DaysMotivation

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We have all been guilty of making a promise to someone , or maybe even to ourselves and then not following through.

We can usually come up with a list of reasons why we couldn’t make good on our promise. But at the end of the day that list is worthless. You gave your word that you were going to do something and then you went back on it.

My mantra when dealing with other people is to “under promise but over deliver”. When you can go above and beyond for other people they will truly appreciate it and will remember you. But if you promise the earth, moon and starts and come up short they are going to have a completely different view of you. When you under-promise you have that leeway that if something else comes up in your life that you don’t have to let that person down. By under-promising you should still be able to meet your commitment.

Commitment means staying loyal to what you said you were going to do, long after the mood you said it in has left you

When promising myself things, it can become a little more difficult. It’s so easy to blow ourselves off. If we break a promise to ourselves, it doesn’t usually affect other people. So it goes unnoticed.

But your consciousness notices it. It hears that you don’t really value yourself to not follow through with a commitment. That you are not important enough. Make it a goal that you are going to follow through with personal commitments. Because if you continually send the message to yourself that you are not important, soon you’ll find that can’t you find the motivation to change your life and habits because your brain will send you signals “well you tried before and failed – you’re a failure”. The more commitments that you end up not completing for yourself the stronger this signal will be.

So from now on when you make a commitment either to yourself or someone else – be true to your word! It could have a greater impact than you realise.

Day 31 – #50DaysMotivation

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Sometimes when you are working towards a goal you can become a little frustrated or downhearted. Maybe things aren’t going the way you planned? Maybe progress is slower than you thought it would be? Maybe you are questioning if this goal is even the thing you really want?

When you are filled with what I call ‘crisis in confidence’, I want you to go for a walk. Just a plain simple stroll so your mind can look at these questions and think clearly. When we are hunched over our laptops or phones – planning our lives – it can be difficult to really see where we are headed. We are constantly going from notification, to email, to text message, to errand and can’t really see the big picture.

All great achievements require time

When I go for a walk, I find I have the freedom to think clearly. I don’t pound the pavement, I go for a leisurely stroll. You don’t want your mind concentrating on the exercise of walking, you want it to concentrate on what thoughts are swirling in your mind. Being outside has this amazing way of letting you connect the thoughts in your mind with ease rather than trying to do it at a keyboard.

When you go for a walk with the purpose of thinking over these worries – don’t bring music or a friend. Just walk with your thoughts. You’ll find as you take step after step that your mind will begin to unfurl it’s thoughts and help you find the answers to your worries. If you can walk somewhere with great scenic beauty – great! But even if you just go for a walk around where you live, you’ll find that just being out, alone with your thoughts will help you see things clearer.

So next time you feel completely caught up with your worries about your goal – go for a walk!

Day 30 – #50DaysMotivation

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Today is the last in the mini series of overcoming procrastination. Today we are going to eliminate our distractions.

For a lot of people, they don’t even realise they are procrastinating. They are just spending their time doing what they’ve always done. Well these mindless distractions are stopping you from realising your goals. So here are three ways to eliminate the distractions.

1) Delete time suck apps – If you can find 20 minutes a day to play Candy Crush or Piano Tiles, you have just found an extra 20 minutes to work on your goals daily. You might protest and say that you only play those things when you are waiting for someone to arrive or on the way home on the train from work. Well why don’t you listen to a podcast and learn something that’ll help towards your goal? There is so much free knowledge out there – don’t waste your time collecting free imaginary coins or whatever! Use the time to become an even better version of you!

2) Rearrange your phone – If deleting time suck apps is a step too far, then move them off the home screen of your phone. One of the best things I ever did to help deal with my procrastination tendencies was to move time-suck apps to the 3rd or 4th screen on my phone. Now when I check my phone I’m not tempted by all these mindless distractions. Having to go find the apps, is a useful deterrent and helps me stay focused. Now any games on my phone are buried deep in the main screen. Even moving apps like Facebook or Twitter can help your productivity immensely. Wherever you are wasting time, move them off the main screen.

3) Block websites – If you find yourself mindlessly surfing the internet, you need an app like https://selfcontrolapp.com/ This app will block websites or only allow you to visit certain sites. So if you have a deadline but find yourself tempted to procrastinate on Facebook or Netflix – this is what you need!

Don’t find fault, find a remedy

Hopefully the past five days have helped you identify how you procrastinate and how to overcome it. When working towards your goal, the more you can focus, the quicker you will get there.

Day 29 – #50DaysMotivation

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Today is day 4 of our strategies to stop procrastination. Hopefully you have started using some of the strategies to help you make progress towards your goal. Today we are going to talk about the strategy that will help you stay consistent.

Many times we start a new habit and we manage to keep doing it for a few days, however we soon start to slack and silently but definitively falls off the radar and we go back to bad habits.

Most of our problems are because we act without thinking or we keep thinking without acting

In order to beat procrastination and stay consistent you need to write down your to-do list for the day, your daily goals and deadlines. The very act of writing it down will signal to your brain that you want to get shit done today! It will also serve as a reminder throughout the day about where you need to be and what to focus your energy on. Most to-do list apps can send you notifications during the day so you have no excuse for not hitting targets.

When a notification pops up, don’t ignore it. Even if you just spend 2 minutes starting the task, you are 2 minutes more advanced than you were at the start of the day. I know it can be easy to say that you don’t have to write everything down and that you can remember it, but you simply can’t. Your brain has millions of things to process every day, so give it a break and just write down your to-do list in the morning or before you go to bed.

Having intention is the best way to start your day and the only way you will follow through with your goals.!

Day 28 – #50DaysMotivation

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Today we are going to talk about the 7 minute rule. If procrastination is a major vice for you – this might just be the strategy to help you overcome it!

From now on, next time you feel you are procrastinating from something I want you to just start and do 7 minutes of the thing – whatever it is.

So if you are putting off working out, I want you to just work out for 7 minutes.

The best way to get things done is to simply begin

If you are procrastinating from working on your next blog post, or writing your paper for college, just start writing for 7 minutes.

Set a timer beside you so your brain can see exactly how much time you have left in the task. And give yourself full permission to stop after 7 minutes. The only thing you must remember is that you give the task in front of you your full attention for those 7 minutes. So don’t start the timer and then spend 3 minutes filling your water bottle or putting on your laptop and checking your email. When you start the timer you must be ready to start the task.

The best thing about the 7 minute rule is that nine times out of ten, you’ll find that when the timer goes off you will keep working on the task. Why? Because just starting a task is often the hardest part. Once you begin, you’ll often find that what you thought was this big intimidating task actually isn’t that bad. Or else the 7 minutes have started momentum and it’s easier to continue on while your brain is now focused on the task.

What I love about the 7 minute rule is that it doesn’t matter how much you get done in the 7 minutes, it’s helping foster a better habit of just getting things started rather than putting them off. If you embrace this strategy you’ll soon see that you are quickly making more progress towards your goals every day.