As you work towards your goal, hopefully you should be seeing some small successes. As we’ve spoken about before it is important to break down your goals into smaller pieces so that you regularly have wins that help you carry your motivation through to the end of the goal.
The people around you may have started to notice these successes. Most will likely be happy for you, maybe even proud as you strive to reach your goal. However there will be people who will not be happy for you. They maybe jealous of how you are making your dreams a reality. They might be envious that you suddenly have this purpose in your life and they are squandering their time. They maybe be anxious that you are becoming a new successful person and feel threatened by this. Whatever it is, there will be haters.
I often think that “hurt people, hurt people”. Think about it for a moment. Those people are obviously hurting on the inside if they see your success though mean-spirited eyes. Today I want to help you deal with the haters.
If someone says something mean to you – maybe it’s an anonymous troll on the internet or it can be a close loved one – I want you to just ignore it. I know that sounds easier than it actually is, but there is little point in putting your energy into something negative. No good will come of it for you. If you engage in their bitterness, suddenly you are speaking their language which is full of negativity and hate. Why bring that into your life? You are focusing on being a better person – becoming consumed by the hate they spew does not help your cause one bit.
If it’s an internet troll just block them ASAP. Don’t engage!!! That’s what they want – that’s what they crave! They wouldn’t spend their time trolling people if they were continually ignored. They would just give up. So ignore them!
If it’s a close loved one – that is more difficult. But you can still deal with it, without it impacting on your mental state. When they say something negative to you, just smile (as much as it kills you inside!) and say “I appreciate that’s your opinion, but I’m happy with how I’m living my life”. And leave the situation. Whether it’s walking away or putting down the phone – you need to get out of there. I know this will be difficult but if you engage in an argument with them – nothing good comes from it.
So today’s task is to identify “trolls” in your life and start preparing yourself for how you will interact with them when the trolling starts.